Why Doing It Alone Isn’t the Answer?

“It’s a trauma response to isolate yourself and try to do it alone.”

It’s a trauma response to isolate yourself and try to do it alone.

You haven’t trusted others, and rightfully so.

But the time of the lone wolf is over.

For so many men, the belief that “I must do it on my own” is a deeply ingrained pattern. A core wound that stems from experiences of broken trust, unworthiness, or the false belief that strength equals independence. Yet, on a deeper level, this pattern goes back to something even more profound: our separation from creative source.

When you try to do life alone, without connection to others or the source of creation, you cut yourself off from your most authentic, aligned, and inspired self. And that isolation comes at a tremendous cost.

Remembering Who You Are

One of the most empowering realizations I unlocked on my journey was this:

I had forgotten who I was, where I came from, and why I came here.

I tried to do life on my own.

Disconnected. Isolated. Separate from creative source—the force that brings inspiration, flow, and trust into our lives. And let me be clear: I’m not a religious guy. But I do believe in finding what’s true for you, in exploring teachings, texts, and modalities that bring you closer to yourself and to life itself.

When you neglect that connection—that inner knowing of what is true for you—it places you at a tremendous disadvantage.

If we zoom in from the spiritual level to the micro level of daily life, the same truth holds:

Not allowing yourself to be fully supported by qualified people is essentially damning yourself to failure.

Doing life alone—out of fear, out of distrust, or because you think it’s what strong men do—is not the answer. I know we’re conditioned to believe otherwise. I know the lone wolf narrative is glorified in movies, books, and culture. But isolation? That’s just trauma disguised as strength.

The truth is:

• You can trust life.

• You can trust yourself.

• You can trust others—as long as they are the right people.

And when you get around the right people, everything changes.

The Trust Fall: A Rite of Passage

I’ve found incredible value in studying tribal rites of passage. These ceremonies, practiced for generations, reveal the importance of trust, connection, and initiation into higher levels of self-awareness.

Let me share one that struck me deeply.

In some African tribes, when a boy is transitioning into manhood, he is tasked with building a platform out of sticks. He then goes into the jungle, picks his own vines, and calculates—without tools or tape measures—the exact length those vines need to be.

He ties the vines to his feet, climbs to the top of the platform, often 40-50 feet high, and jumps off headfirst.

This isn’t modern bungee jumping. The vines don’t have the stretch of our technology. The closer his head comes to the ground without injury, the more revered he becomes in his tribe.

Sounds crazy, right?

But imagine the level of trust it takes:

• Trusting yourself to calculate the right length of the vines.

• Trusting the elements, the jungle, and the ground below.

• Trusting your own alignment with life itself.

It’s like a hundred times the trust fall we know in modern seminars. You know the ones—where you climb six feet and fall back into the arms of 10 people. Sure, that’s a nice experience. But it’s nothing compared to true trust.

Can You Trust Life?

Rites of passage like this ask us to face the ultimate question:

Can you trust life?

Can you trust yourself to do what’s necessary to catch yourself?

Can you trust inspiration, connection, and alignment to guide you—even when it feels like you’re jumping headfirst into the unknown?

The truth is, life will catch you. But only if you’re willing to:

• Connect to yourself and to creative source.

• Allow yourself to be fully supported by others.

• Stop isolating and start trusting.

Because doing life alone is not strength. It’s a defense mechanism. And it’s holding you back from everything you’re capable of.

Your Journey Starts Here

If this brings up thoughts, feelings, or realizations for you… lean into them. Isolation is not your path. And you don’t have to walk this journey alone.

Find the right people. Connect to the right tools. Trust yourself to take the leap.

If I can help you unpack this on your journey, comment below or send me a message. I’m here for you.

The time of the lone wolf is over.